Good morning Reader,
Welcome to the 31st issue of The FAM.
Here we are.
We’ve made it through the holidays.
The calendar has turned.
And tomorrow morning, the first Monday of 2026 arrives, ready or not.
For a brief window, we’re still in that in-between space. The pause after celebration. The quiet before the pace accelerates again. Before inboxes refill. Before schedules tighten. Before the world begins asking things of us again.
And it doesn’t take long, does it?
The headlines return as they did on Saturday morning. The demands reappear. Life reminds us quickly that it is complicated, heavy, unpredictable. Even at the very start of a new year.
This is reality.
I was reminded of this powerfully during our Fully Alive Fresh Start experience last Thursday, on January 1. Just minutes before we began, a FAM member sent an email to say she couldn’t attend. She explained that she is dealing with a family emergency, a sick pet, and a broken water heater. It was all just too much, all at once.
And yet - many of you were there. You chose to protect time for yourself anyway. Not because life was calm. But because it wasn’t.
That choice matters.
What I’ve learned from years on the road, from thousands of conversations, from listening more than speaking - is that most people aren’t looking for a grand plan when a new year begins. They’re not asking for a perfect roadmap.
They’re asking for something simpler, and more honest:
Help me get my footing and set my direction.
That’s it.
Henry David Thoreau once wrote about stepping away so he could “live deliberately.” Not to escape life, but to meet it more truthfully. The Stoics reminded us that peace begins the moment we stop trying to control what isn’t ours to control. Emerson urged us to trust the quiet voice within, even when the world pulls loudly in every other direction.
Different eras. Same truth.
A fresh start isn’t about controlling the world.
It’s about choosing how we meet it.
That’s why we ended our time together on January 1 with a simple reminder - one that feels even more important now, on the edge of Monday:
Start with me.
Not in a self-centered, selfish way. But in a steady way. In a grounded way.